Navigating the Maze: The Childhood Struggles of INTJ Females

Childhood is a complex and formative period for every individual, shaping the foundation of one's personality. For INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) females, this journey is marked by unique challenges that often set them apart from their peers. In this article, we will explore the struggles that INTJ females may face during their childhood, shedding light on the intricacies of their early development.

Social Alienation:

From a young age, INTJ females may find themselves struggling with social interactions. Their introverted nature and preference for deep, meaningful conversations can make them feel out of place in settings that prioritize small talk and superficial connections. As a result, they may experience a sense of social alienation, making it challenging to form close friendships.

Overthinking and Perfectionism:

INTJ females are natural overthinkers, and this tendency can manifest early in childhood. The pressure they put on themselves to excel in academics and other pursuits can lead to perfectionism. This constant pursuit of perfection may create stress and anxiety, impacting their overall well-being.

Difficulty in Expressing Emotions:

Understanding and expressing emotions can be a struggle for INTJ females in childhood. Their logical and analytical minds may find it challenging to navigate the realm of feelings, leading to a sense of disconnect between their own emotions and those of their peers. This emotional barrier can make it difficult for others to relate to them.

Frustration with Inefficiency:

INTJ females often possess a keen sense of efficiency and dislike inefficiency in systems or processes. In childhood, this may translate into frustration with educational systems that do not cater to their preferred learning styles or with group activities that seem disorganized. This frustration may not always be well-received by teachers or peers.

Independence vs. Conformity Dilemma:

Balancing their desire for independence with societal expectations and norms can be a significant struggle for INTJ females in childhood. They may resist conforming to traditional roles and expectations, seeking autonomy and individuality. This can create tension with authority figures and societal expectations, leading to a feeling of being misunderstood.

Impatience with Redundancy:

INTJ females possess a natural inclination towards innovation and novel ideas. Consequently, they may become impatient with redundant or repetitive tasks in the classroom or at home. This impatience can result in a disinterest in activities that do not stimulate their intellectual curiosity, potentially hindering their engagement in certain aspects of childhood education.

Limited Tolerance for Inauthenticity:

INTJ females, even in childhood, may exhibit a limited tolerance for inauthenticity. They may struggle with societal expectations that encourage conformity over authenticity. This aversion to societal norms can lead to feelings of isolation as they grapple with the internal conflict between being true to themselves and fitting into societal expectations.

Conclusion:

The childhood struggles of INTJ females are a product of their unique personalities and cognitive preferences. As they navigate the challenges of social dynamics, emotional expression, and conformity, these young individuals are laying the groundwork for the independent, strategic, and intellectually driven women they will become. Understanding and supporting INTJ females during their formative years can help them embrace their strengths and navigate the complexities of childhood more effectively.

Embracing the Uniqueness of INTJ Females: The Rarest Personality Type

In the vast tapestry of human personalities, INTJ females stand out as a rare and distinctive thread, making up only about 0.8% of the female population. Often dubbed as "The Mastermind" or "The Architect," INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) females possess a unique set of traits that set them apart from the crowd. In this article, we will delve into the fascinating world of INTJ females, exploring their exceptional qualities and the challenges they might face, and shedding light on the valuable perspectives they bring to society.

The INTJ Profile

INTJ females are characterized by their analytical minds, strategic thinking, and a deep sense of independence. They are introverted, preferring solitary activities or meaningful conversations over large social gatherings. Their intuition allows them to see patterns, possibilities, and connections that others might miss, making them excellent problem solvers and visionaries. Driven by logic and reason, they approach life with a pragmatic mindset, valuing competence and efficiency in all their endeavors.

The Challenges Faced by INTJ Females

Being a minority in terms of personality type can present its challenges. INTJ females often find it hard to fit into traditional gender roles, which can lead to feelings of isolation or misunderstanding. Their direct and logical communication style might be perceived as cold or distant, making it challenging to connect with others on an emotional level. Additionally, their high standards and perfectionist tendencies can create internal pressure, leading to stress and self-doubt.

The Strengths of INTJ Females

Despite the challenges, INTJ females possess numerous strengths that make them invaluable contributors to various fields and relationships. Their analytical minds allow them to excel in academic and professional settings, where problem-solving and strategic thinking are highly valued. They are natural leaders, capable of envisioning long-term goals and inspiring others to achieve them. In personal relationships, their loyalty and commitment run deep, making them reliable and trustworthy partners and friends.

Embracing Diversity

Society benefits greatly from embracing the diversity of personality types, including the rare and remarkable INTJ females. By appreciating their unique perspective and nurturing their talents, we can create an environment where everyone, regardless of their personality type, can thrive and contribute meaningfully. Embracing INTJ females and their distinctive qualities enriches our collective experience, fostering innovation, understanding, and acceptance in the tapestry of human nature.

Dating Tips: What do INTJ women want?

Some online dating tips for men who are seeking a serious relationship with an INTJ female.

1, Never have topless pics on your profile, just don't OK? It looks nasty and like you are only out for one thing.

2, Don't post up bathroom mirror selfies with minging toilets in the background of the shot. I mean come on, did you think we wouldn't notice that you just took a shit?

3, Don't pout in your photos imitating those silly bimbos who do that. It doesn't look cute, it looks pathetic.

4, Don't post up those silly filter pics with wigs and animal ears on them, It makes you look like a wanker. When women do that it doesn't look cute, just stupid, so what makes you think it will look good on you?

5, Don't post photos of you with your ex with her face scrubbed out, get a new photo of just you ffs!

6, Don't post photos of your kids, no one is interested in seeing your brats, they want to date you, not them.

7, If you want an INTJ woman to respond to you don't send her a message saying any of the following: Hey sexy, babe, beautiful, honey, sweetheart etc. You look sexy, delicious, gorgeous, sensual, cute etc.

8, If you want an INTJ woman to respond say something interesting, read her profile and see what interests she has or what work she does and ask her something about those. Compliment her on her knowledge, not her looks.

9, Don't assume that just because you have a lot of money, a nice house and car that an INTJ woman will automatically be interested in you. An INTJ woman is the most unlikely to be a gold digger, the reason being is that she can make her own money and even if she doesn't have a great deal of money she is very independent.

10, If you can manage to keep her interest by talking about weird, strange or unusual stuff without the need of small talk you will have her hooked.

Help for extroverts - Surviving a night in alone.

Are you an extrovert? So many invites, too many social obligations?

Because you are an extrovert and love to be the life and soul of every party you always attend everything, even when you aren't invited! Because you just assume that your invite was lost in the post.

Why not give someone else a chance in the limelight by enjoying a night in at home alone... you can do it.

How to prepare for your night in alone – a special guide to help the struggling extrovert to cope.

1, Snacks – Make sure you are stocked up with plenty of tasty snacks because when the loneliness starts to set in eating snacks by the bucket load will help ease the pain.

2, Entertainment – Do a little research into which new films are out or a series you can binge-watch. You must keep your mind occupied to resist the urge of grabbing your jacket and going out, or worse still, calling up one of your many friends to bend their ear about how lonely and depressed you are.

3, Warmth and comfort – Remove all your trendy designer clothing, jewellery, make-up and hair extensions. It is time to don some comfy old sweat pants and fluffy socks, also get a cuddly blanket and plenty of cushions to snuggle with and comfort you on your night in alone.

4, Booze – It isn't really advisable to drink alone, but as an extrovert the thought of a whole evening in alone might see you reaching for the bottle. Try to resist the urge and instead have a nice cup of hot chocolate or a glass of milk. You really don't want to be more buzzed than you already are, so avoid coffee and other drinks that contain caffeine.

5, Bathroom breaks – As an anxious extrovert who cannot bear to spend any time alone, even when you go to the loo you have to have your phone with you, try giving the internet a miss altogether at this stressful time. You may live to regret the posts you make on social media about how lonely you are, how no one loves you and what a cruel world it is. These thoughts are brought on in the extrovert after spending more than a few hours alone and so you must resist the urge to take your phone, tablet or any other device that is connected to the internet with you when you take a bathroom break. I know it is hard, but it will save you a lot of embarrassment later.

6, Reading – It is a good idea to have some reading material ready in the bathroom before your evening alone, then your mind has something to focus on while alone in there. You must avoid the internet, so don't pretend to yourself that you are going to read an article on your tablet only to find yourself begging for attention or posting bathroom mirror selfies on social media.

7, Pamper – Extroverts can be so full on that they often forget to take the time to pamper themselves, instead, they busy themselves with poking their noses into all the latest gossip and everyone else's affairs. On your night in alone you can use this time wisely by taking a relaxing bath, yes I know you prefer to have a quick shower so you don't have time to sit and think deep or dark thoughts or contemplate anything all.. however, on this occasion at least try to stay in there for more than 5 minutes. Take a book with you, I know it is hard to read when your mind starts drifting off to wondering about what you are missing out on, but try to reassure yourself that your friends will help you catch up with any gossip.

8, Rocking – As the night wears on and you have run out of good things to watch or read, comfort yourself by rocking back and forth as your cradle yourself in a fetal position. It can be surprisingly therapeutic.

9, Bedtime – As the night finally starts to draw to an end and bedtime is approaching take a few moments to rejoice in your victory, you survived the whole evening in alone! Next time won't be so bad... and yes I know you are shaking your head right now and saying – “never again”.

Forever The Outcast

Yesterday I was searching for a file on my computer, it was an old file and I couldn't remember the name of it, so it took a lot of searching for. I did find it alongside an old chat log someone had sent me. I had forgotten about it, so opened it and read what was inside. It was basically a group of people, most of which I had never met in my life, and others I had only met once very briefly. They were slagging me off something terrible. They were accusing me of doing something terrible to some “vulnerable” male they knew and calling me a psychopath, insane and saying I don't care about people. They also implied I think I am a Goddess and so much better than everyone else.

This isn't the first time a group of people or even an individual has just turned on me like this, and I am very sure it won't be the last time. It would be very easy for me to get depressed about this and start to think maybe there is something wrong with me, it can't be everyone else, can it!

But then I analyse what it is they are saying about me and realise that probably most INTJ females have been through this kind of thing, time and time again.

I seem to have spent my life trying to explain to people that I didn't mean something the way they assumed I did when I say something that they take completely the wrong way. It is like I am talking a different language to these people, they assume I am angry and being nasty when in reality I am very calm and just giving facts or details the way I see them. For me dealing with other people has been a minefield all my life. I never know when one of them is going to explode into a rage and start accusing me of being arrogant or aggressive when I simply wasn't being like that at all.

They often accuse me of thinking I am better than them or using fancy words. Or the other end of the spectrum when they see a mistake I make because of my dyslexia, where I can spell correctly but swap out a word completely (e.g.: quite, quiet), and use this as a way to belittle me and try to make out that I am really dumb. I can't win on that score. I know my limitations and when someone points out mistakes I make I am grateful to them for pointing it out so I can correct it.

However, if I am the one to point something out to someone in a calm way just so they know about it, they think I am being nasty and arrogant. No, I would just rather someone tell me, so I think they would rather know too.

In a discussion where I disagree about something with someone, on a topic I know a lot about, I do my best to show the other person why I believe what I do, and why I won't accept their view about it. To me this doesn't mean we have to argue about it or get upset, we can agree that it is something we will never see eye to eye on, but it is no reason to hate each other or get angry. But again so many have turned on me for daring to have an opinion different to theirs. This has happened so often that now most of the time I just refuse to discuss it any further because I know it will end in them getting upset.

So maybe at the heart of my problems is my independence of thought and my unwillingness to conform to their way of doing things, just so I can fit in with the crowd. I don't understand why a group of people cannot be a group of individuals with opinions and ideas of their own. I don't understand why we have to think and act like everyone else to be accepted or be deemed acceptable.

People are in general scared of anything or anyone different I guess, and whereas I love to meet interesting, unique and unusual people, they see them as a threat somehow. A threat to the controlled little groupthink they have going? After all, they don't want their ideas questioned or for anything to change, people are so scared of change, they will do anything to avoid it.

So no, there is nothing wrong with me. I am just being me and yes I am a Goddess, every woman who allows herself to be is.

Yes I do care very deeply for people who are close to me, and no there aren't that many, but they are genuine and not friends with me because of some ego feeding narcissism groupthink. They are individuals too.

I wrote this article because I am sure other INTJ females get this kind of reaction to them too, since getting to know more INTJ females in the group it makes me realise there is nothing wrong with me after all, and there is nothing wrong with you either.

The INTJ Female

 

She is talented, smart, yet introverted so enjoys hiding away
Her thoughts are far beyond the influence of mass media sway

 

She has a hatred of injustices and likes to play fair
But most are intimidated by her intense and scary stare

 

Although she doesn't cope very well in a crowd
What wonders go on inside her mind are bright and very loud

 

Often it can appear she is calm and has the patience of a saint
Just don't interrupt her unannounced or yours could be a sticky fate

 

All in all, she isn't too bad and could be your best friend
She is loyal, trustworthy and will stick by you until the very end

 

 

 

 

 

 

INTJ Women With Double Standards?

Let's talk a little bit about some so called rational INTJ women and their double standards.

Many of you in the INTJ Females group on Facebook will know that every now and then someone in there has an emotional outburst, usually for no other reason than someone having a different opinion to them.

A while ago someone was going on about being diagnosed with autism, to which I said they weren't autistic. I don't agree that normal people who are a little socially awkward should be labelled autistic, especially when this is a term used to describe people who are retarded. When the word retard became seen as an insult, a new word was needed, this has already happened several times over when moron, idiot and various others became insults and therefore fell out of use and were replaced. And this is going to keep happening. Unless we stop this ridiculous behaviour all words will be classed as hate speech and banned, and then all we will be able to do is grunt, and even then there will be those offended by it.

I never once said that anyone in the group is retarded, I told them that they are NOT retarded, they are not autistic and it is ridiculous to label them as such. But maybe they think they can use their newly earned label as an excuse for being a complete bitch to everyone they come across?

So anyway, the women who were offended, when I said they are not autistic, said I had called them a retard, never did, decided they were going to report me and the group for hate speech and try to get it shut down. They talked about this in my own group right in front of me and yet got all angry and upset when I removed them! It didn't stop them spreading their hate though, oh no, they then went into another group and started to tell everyone that I am "insane" and "crazy" they said I started to attack group members. Erm no, I removed those attacking me, BIG DIFFERENCE!

And the most unbelievable thing about this whole episode is that those nasty women think it is perfectly fine for them to call me names using words used to describe someone with a mental illness. Double standards much?

I wanted to post this blog to show just how terrible people can be when they are offended by something they have absolutely no right to be offended about.

So what if I don't think people who aren't retarded should be labelled autistic? That is my opinion and you telling me I am crazy and insane for thinking that isn't going to make me change my mind.

I guess those special snowflakes who love their labels really do want special treatment. They can call someone names and spread nasty rumours about them and try to ruin them. But no one else can say fuck all.

Well fuck that, you won't ever shut me up!

So why did these women want to start a hate campaign against me?

I have dealt with these kinds of attacks all my life, I write on my own blog about how I am used as a scapegoat so many times.

It is simple, they can't stand to see someone who is free and happy when their life is a pit of fear and disappear. They want to ruin anyone who dares to speak their mind because they are too scared to. They are scared to work on themselves and to look within to their own dark side, but they will do all they can to punish those who are strong enough to.

I am not angry about what they are trying to do to me, I pity them.