Are you an extrovert? So many invites, too many social obligations?
Because you are an
extrovert and love to be the life and soul of every party you always
attend everything, even when you aren't invited! Because you just
assume that your invite was lost in the post.
Why not give someone else a chance in the limelight by enjoying a night in at home
alone... you can do it.
How to prepare for your
night in alone – a special guide to help the struggling extrovert
to cope.
1, Snacks – Make sure
you are stocked up with plenty of tasty snacks because when the
loneliness starts to set in eating snacks by the bucket load will
help ease the pain.
2, Entertainment – Do
a little research into which new films are out or a series you can
binge-watch. You must keep your mind occupied to resist the urge of
grabbing your jacket and going out, or worse still, calling up one of your many
friends to bend their ear about how lonely and depressed you are.
3, Warmth and comfort –
Remove all your trendy designer clothing, jewellery, make-up and hair
extensions. It is time to don some comfy old sweat pants and fluffy
socks, also get a cuddly blanket and plenty of cushions to snuggle
with and comfort you on your night in alone.
4, Booze – It isn't
really advisable to drink alone, but as an extrovert the thought of a
whole evening in alone might see you reaching for the bottle. Try to
resist the urge and instead have a nice cup of hot chocolate or a
glass of milk. You really don't want to be more buzzed than you
already are, so avoid coffee and other drinks that contain caffeine.
5, Bathroom breaks –
As an anxious extrovert who cannot bear to spend any time alone, even
when you go to the loo you have to have your phone with you, try
giving the internet a miss altogether at this stressful time. You may
live to regret the posts you make on social media about how lonely
you are, how no one loves you and what a cruel world it is. These
thoughts are brought on in the extrovert after spending more than a
few hours alone and so you must resist the urge to take your phone,
tablet or any other device that is connected to the internet with you
when you take a bathroom break. I know it is hard, but it will save
you a lot of embarrassment later.
6, Reading – It is a
good idea to have some reading material ready in the bathroom before
your evening alone, then your mind has something to focus on while
alone in there. You must avoid the internet, so don't pretend to yourself that you are
going to read an article on your tablet only to find yourself
begging for attention or posting bathroom mirror selfies on social
media.
7, Pamper –
Extroverts can be so full on that they often forget to take the time
to pamper themselves, instead, they busy themselves with poking their
noses into all the latest gossip and everyone else's affairs. On your
night in alone you can use this time wisely by taking a relaxing
bath, yes I know you prefer to have a quick shower so you don't have
time to sit and think deep or dark thoughts or contemplate anything
all.. however, on this occasion at least try to stay in there for
more than 5 minutes. Take a book with you, I know it is hard to read
when your mind starts drifting off to wondering about what you are
missing out on, but try to reassure yourself that your friends will
help you catch up with any gossip.
8, Rocking – As the
night wears on and you have run out of good things to watch or read,
comfort yourself by rocking back and forth as your cradle yourself in a fetal position. It can be surprisingly therapeutic.
9, Bedtime – As the
night finally starts to draw to an end and bedtime is approaching
take a few moments to rejoice in your victory, you survived the whole
evening in alone! Next time won't be so bad... and yes I know you are
shaking your head right now and saying – “never again”.